Archive for July, 2009

The Road To Wellness . . .continued

July 22, 2009

April 15, 2009, I received an email from my friend.  Apparently, she had been talking with the chiropractor she had begun seeing shortly after our lunch conversation.  He had mentioned the name of a surgeon who, according to an article in a well-known chiropractic journal, helped patients complaining of physical issues very similar to those my friend had been experiencing.  Within a month, my friend was boarding a plane on her way to see this out-of-state specialist.

At the beginning of June, I received another email from my friend.  She was home recovering from the aches and pains of surgery, but with very high spirits.  For the first time in years, she felt more like herself and was beginning the process of getting to know her body again.

“I cannot thank you enough for your honesty, wisdom and friendship,” she had written.  “You really pushed me to look outside the box and take ownership of my challenges by stretching myself out of comfort-zones and into new possibilities and eventually REAL answers.”

My response to her was a simple one, “I merely shared my observations and a bit of knowledge brought to me through personal experience.  You were the one who shared with me your needs and what it was you were seeking.  You just needed to be reminded that there was another way and that you were capable of finding it.  You needed to remember that the answers resided in and with YOU.”

I am happy to report that as of this blog entry date, my friend is finding her way to a new perspective on healing . . . she’s also physically healing like a champ!  She has her Rolodex of professional “assistants;” a chiropractor (previously mentioned), a nutritionist, an acupuncturist and a wonderful physical therapist who also does energy-body work.  She still sees a few of her doctors, and of course, is in regular contact with the out-of-state surgeon’s office, but she has begun to realize that her choices and determinations are what will lead her to true, balanced health.

She, herself, said it best during a phone conversation a few weeks ago.  “You know, I think I’m finally understanding . . . the road to wellness really is paved with the stones of choice that reside within ME.”

Amen, sister!!!


The Road To Wellness . . . The Key Is Within YOU!

July 15, 2009

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve spoken with or heard other people complaining about the medical system’s inability to help them with their physical aliments.  The grievances range from being treated like a number, “I don’t know if the doctor even took the time to look at my record!” to the all-too-common issue of seeing far too many specialists who each prescribe their own drug or remedy, but no real “healing” or true improvement takes place.

I have a friend who has been battling the same “unknown” illness for over 5 years now.  She’s been to all the docs who could ever be even the slightest bit specialized to deal with this particular issue, and I believe, she’s been on 12 – 15 different medications to try to pinpoint the issue and/or alleviate the symptoms.  She has also experienced debilitating pain.  She’s missed work, had to cancel social engagements and has been in and out of doctors’ offices and hospitals.  Yet, until last April, she hadn’t gotten any closer to solving the question as to why her 35 year old body was turning against her. She would tell me she just couldn’t accept the test results and doctors’ responses that it was what she didn’t think it was or that things looked normal.  “I know what it isn’t,” she said, “and I can’t tell you why, I just do.  Also, if everything was, indeed, NORMAL, than why in the world do I feel like sometimes I’m going to die???!”

“Well, what do YOU think? I had asked her over lunch one day.

“What do you mean? she had replied.

” I mean, obviously, you are getting signs that what the doctors are telling you doesn’t jive with what you are feeling and experiencing, right?”

“Well, yes, but that’s a no-brainer!  I’m feeling horrible, and most of these drugs make me feel MORE horrible, and come on, if things were normal, we all know I wouldn’t be having these issues!” she’d cried.

“What else?” I asked.

“What do you mean?” she’d looked at me blankly.

“I mean, what else is your body telling you?  Here, let me elaborate . . . have you ever had a gut feeling about something.  A really strong sense that you needed to do or not do something?”

“Yah, of course, everyone has, but what does that have to do with this?”

“Everything,” I replied.  “Your body sends you signs all the time about what’s going on.  It’s not just about feelings you’re having about other things or people.  It’s about what’s good for YOU.  The symptoms you are experiencing are signs pointing to what is out of balance or what does or could cause harm to you.  It’s your job to figure out what that is.  In order to do that, you have to pay attention to everything you do . . .what do you eat?  when may the symptoms be worse or go away?  does stress seem to play a roll, do certain conditions, sights, sounds, smells make things better or worse?  Your body will tell you.”

“Okay,” said my friend, “that makes sense, but I do that and I still can’t figure it out!  I mean, this is a complex issue.  There are SO many things that seem to be going wrong with my body!

“Yet it often stems from one thing initially,” I said.  “Let me ask you another question, do you put more stock in your opinion or in your doctor’s opinion?”

“I don’t understand,” she looked at me quizzically.

“Do you look to your doctor(s) for the answers as to what is wrong with you, or do you consider the medical specialists you see as assistants in helping you to get the answers to your problems?  It’s a subtle difference, but a big one.  If you’re looking to others to tell you what’s wrong, and it’s not getting you any closer to finding it, then you might consider that you know yourself better than anyone, and don’t you think you should be the one to determine what’s on the mark and what isn’t?

“Well, yah, I guess,” my friend said, looking defeated.

“It may take a team of different people and don’t rule out the holistic folks either.  Talk to the chiropractors, acupuncturists, nutritionists, natural-paths in addition to your other doctors and take all the information and sort through it applying what you feel comfortable with and what you find works best for you.  If you rely on others who cannot seem to find the problem, you will contine to spin your wheels.  Think of what a 2 1/2 year old will begin to do when they don’t get the answer they like . . .if Mom says ‘no,’ go ask Dad.  Well, that applies here too.  Keep asking until things start to make sense.  This also includes doing your own research.”

My friend just looked at me, then finally said, “what if I just don’t have the time or money to see all these people or do all of this?”

“How much time are you spending with doctors who aren’t helping you now?” I asked.

“Too much time,” she replied.

“And how much is your health worth to you?”

“What kind of question is that, come on!  I obviously want to find answers, but it really comes down to what insurance will pay.  Most insurance companies don’t pay for holistic doctors visits or tests.”

“Some do, you’d be surprised,” I said.  “You told me you are constantly fighting with your current insurance company anyway just to get some of your recent tests and visits covered, so what’s the difference if you fight with them to cover visits or tests with other doctors who may possibly get you closer to what you’re seeking?”

“It’s not that easy,” my friend said.

“It is that easy, ” I told her.  “Look, I’m not trying to make your angry, but I AM trying to provoke you.  I want you to understand that you are stuck because you’re allowing yourself to be.  I know the answers are out there for you, but you need to be willing to do the work AND trust that you will find them.  It’s all about empowerment here.  When you give yourself over to others in anyway, you lose your personal power.  That’s part of why you’re not getting the answers you’re seeking.”

[to be continued . . . ]